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If your marriage is feeling less than perfect, then I have some good news for you. Even though your marriage is made up of two individuals, it only takes one to fix it.
I’m Brad Browning, relationship coach and author of the best selling Mend the Marriage program. Today I want to talk to you about a question I often get asked, and that’s “Is it possible to fix your marriage on your own?” The short answer is yes. Since your marriage is based on a chain of actions and reactions, changing the way you behave and interact within your relationship will in turn affect the way your spouse behaves and reacts. If your changes are positive, then the marriage as a whole will improve.
To get started, focus on making changes to the following aspects of your relationship, and before you know it you’ll have fixed your issues on your own.
Let’s get started.
Surprise your spouse with praise.
In the early days of your marriage, you and your spouse were like song birds, constantly singing each other praise. But as time passes, it’s easy for those praises to wane and for the small acts of love to go unnoticed.
To fix your marriage, make a point to surprise your spouse, especially at times when they may be expecting criticism. Once you get into the habit of doing so, your partner will likely follow suit. Voicing your appreciate for the things they do will work wonders on your marriage and it will also motivate your partner to keep up the good work.
Show your spouse you’re listening.
Everyone loves to be heard, so when your spouse is talking to you show them that you’re actively listening. To do so, free yourself of distractions, make eye contact and use encouraging conversation fillers such as “I see,” or “Mhmm” to give cues that you’re paying attention. When they are done speaking, summarize and validate what your spouse has said to you.
When you do this, your spouse will believe you were engaged in the conversation and appreciate your attentiveness. The positive effects will then be seen in other areas of your marriage as well.
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